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bonniebelle

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Although I am not sure I am over grieving for my dog, it was difficult to read this thread, but I wanted you to know our thoughts are with you all. No matter what you decide.

There are never proper words.

Valerie

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OzGirl CairnTalk Guide

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Bonniebelle, I feel so sad for you at this difficult time. I have never been in this position and can only imagine how hard it is to decide what is right for Trissie and you.

Sending prayers and hugs across the sea.

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I am so sorry for you! This is such a hard decision to make. I would also get a second opinion. You will know in your heart when it is time for them to leave this world. I know that you will make the correct decision. We are all here for you. Please give us an update whenever you can.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made.

-M. Acklam

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Tracy A. CairnTalk Mentor

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Bonnie:

:( I am sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.

Tracy, Amos, Walter, Brattwrust & Mettwurst a.k.a The Gremlins

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How can I tell you all how much it means to me to come to this Board, and find all these outstretched arms and warm hearts waiting for me??? So many prayers and kind thoughts for us ... I thank you so much, and will never forget the comfort you have given me at this awful time.

My husband and I have cried and paced and slept very little as we've tried to find a way to let our sweet little boy go, in a dignified and loving way.

After talking with the Vet, who will not advise one way or the other but who just offers options, and from hours of research on the Internet, I know this is probably the worst cancer a dog can have ...

My Vet says a younger dog might survive six months after this major surgery (but all the veterinary school sites say this cancer is so lethal that most dogs die anywhere from 20 to 60 days after the surgery , the reason being that 80% of them have already had the tumor spread by the time it's found); Trissie is 16 - 1/2 years old already, when the average lifespan of a Cairn is between 13 and 14.

I think, at his advanced age, his time after surgery (if he makes it through) would be very short. He would have to recover from that surgery, then the rest of the time would not be a good walk in the park for him, as anyone who has lost a loved one to this horrible disease, knows. We would be fighting more of the same, almost certainly, until the end, and I don't want to put him through that. Maybe I'm wrong ... but it's how I feel. :(

At the moment, we have him reasonably comfortable with pain-killers, and are cuddling him 24/7. But we risk his having a major bleed anytime (from the pockets of blood in his abdomen), and I don't want him to go that way. I want him to fall asleep in my arms as he joins Gabriel and Hannah, our first two Cairns, on the other side of The Rainbow Bridge.

We will give him every bit of love we have for another couple of days, and then I think it will be time to let this magnificent, charming, little love of mine go home ...

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I know I speak for everyone on this site when I say we will pray for strength for you and your husband to do the right thing. I agree with you that now is the time to let him go in dignity. I'm sure you wouldn't want to put him (at 16 1/2 yrs. of age) through the trauma of such drastic surgery and then maybe the recoup period. He's fought a brave fight as these tough little dogs are known to do so let him join your other pups over the Rainbor Bridge. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband at this most difficult time. May God Bless you and yours.

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Bonnie,

My heart breaks for you. I think you have made the most loving decision for your sweet boy. I know the love he has given you for 16-1/2 years is something that you will hold on to for the rest of your life.

I was cherished as well with almost 17 years from my girl & I wouldn't of changed it for the world.

Now, I hold on to all the memories, pictures, keepsakes etc... that keep her so close to my heart.

God bless and sending you lots of hugs, good thoughts & well wishes.

Give your little guy an extra hug from me.

Rhonda,Kramer & Angel Missy "Blessed is the person who has earned the love of an old dog". "It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them. And every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough, all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are" Missy Rainbow Bridge Memorial
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Once again, the tears are falling down my face as I read your post. What loving and adoring parents you are of obviously such a brave Cairn. How lucky you and Missyforever17 have been to have your Cairns for such a long time - that's terrific!

Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all and I just know with all my heart that Trissie knows absolutely how much he is loved. He is going to be so happy to see Gabriel and Hannah - and the rest of our Cairns that have passed over the Rainbow Bridge. God bless!

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savannahsmom35 CairnTalk Guide

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As hard as it is, I think that you have made the right decision. I will be praying for you and your family as I know how hard this can be. I have mentioned before that my childhood dog, Belle, (who was not a Cairn but was a wonderful dog nonetheless) was 12 years old when we lost her. Her eye sight started to go but other than that, she was healthy up until the end. She got sick suddenly late one night. She wouldn't get up and she was throwing up. My Dad told me (I was only 16 year old at the time) that if she wasn't better by morning, we would have to have her put to sleep becuase it wasn't fair for her to suffer that way. I was crushed. I went outside to see her and although she was as sick as she was, she still wagged her little tail when she saw me. I sat with her for a long time that night, telling her that I loved her until my Dad made me come inside. The next morning, she had died. I still regret the fact that I wasn't there when it happened. I hate that she died alone. You look back on these things with the questions of should you have done something different, and could you have done something different. Enjoy these last few days with him and try to make it special for you both. Do everything that you want to do, have no regrets... I know that he knows how much you all love him. Please keep us updated as we will all be here for you when the time comes.

My prayers are with you. :pray:

We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made.

-M. Acklam

Savannah's Dogster Page

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I too am so very sorry. You have obviously been wonderful, loving parents to Trissie and I believe that you have made the right decision. I truly believe that the pets that we have loved and have gone before us will meet us when it is our time to cross over, and I know that Trissie will be waiting for you, whole and healthly. My prayers are with you, your family and especially Trissie. :pray:

Mike

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I too am so very sorry.  You have obviously been wonderful, loving parents to Trissie and I believe that you have made the right decision.  I truly believe that the pets that we have loved and have gone before us will meet us when it is our time to cross over, and I know that Trissie will be waiting for you, whole and healthly.  My prayers are with you, your family and especially Trissie.  :pray:

Mike

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And that is a definate reason to never fear death. May God Bless You for your compassion, love and dedication to your beloved Cairn.

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I am truly sorry for this sorrow in your life. It's never easy as I've been there before. Just know you have given and received unconditional love, a gift that can't be wrapped in frilly paper, but a gift that is given and received from your heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Beth, mom to Ninja (5), Hannah (7), Abbey (7 1/2), Kiara (10)

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Dear Bonnie,

You are doing just what needs to be done at this time for your sweet boy Trissie-loving, protecting & caring for him.

Your immense love for him will guide you through this most difficult time.

I am so sorry that your family & Trissie are experiencing this awful ordeal.

Please know you are in my thoughts & prayers.

Peace be with you,

Barbara

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:candle: I will light my candle for you and your family...the same candle I lit for my Bubba..it brought peace and solitude in such a difficult time

My continued prayers and deepest deepest thoughts during this trying time...

Stacey

Stacey, Shep, Dingo, Oakie and of course, Bubba!!

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Bonnie, My heart aches for you and your family. It was a year ago next week that we had to make the decision to let Murphy, our min schnauzer go, after having him for almost 14 years. He truly was our baby, as we don't have children. I didn't think we would ever recover from this state of depression, even though we knew it was the right thing to do. I promised Murphy that I wouldn't let his suffering go on any longer. Miraculously, 7 months later our new girl Molly came our way, even though we had no plans to adopt again until this summer. She has been our savior, very different from Murphy, and she was clearly what we needed to resurrect us. We still cry over Murphy, especially when we walk to his burial place in our backyard. The only consolation for us is that we know deep in our hearts that it was absolutely the hardest, but the right thing to do for our boy. Our thoughts are with you. Molly's mom

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